The most important changes in our lives begin with a deep, reluctant realization, followed by a deeper, more painful admission… that what is here, now, cannot continue as it is.

Through guilt and doubt and tears of grief and honor for good that was, the old way must be ruthlessly but courageously destroyed, to allow the new to emerge.

If we shrink from this destruction, we prove ourselves unworthy of the best life has for us.

But here is the gamble, the paradox: all that has ever been good, may remain still good, even after the destruction.